Being Truly Authentic

Living for the crowd or living the crowd.

Authenticity is a very precious, honorable value that a lot of modern influencers and their crowd aren’t following. This value helps to make people more connected, and in the process of becoming more authentic, everyone gains something.

Being more authentic is just a no-brainer, you literally become more skillful at what you do in life, happier, you start living life fully, you give your true gifts, you do things you love and you spend time with people you love. In this process, your impact on the world is more positive.

I’m not saying that ALL influencers or all people are inauthentic, that is simply false and this assumption would make me unwise. Instead, I am suggesting that some people and some influencers aren’t authenthic, for the sake of a fake image in order to acquire more fame, money, status, girls, whatever.

And, if for now they’re happy with their lives, good for them. The thing is, lying to yourself isn’t a good strategy, and often-times, if you lie to yourself, life will find a way to put that against you, be it with a sudden lack of confidence, an “overachiever depression” when you never feel good enough, etc.

In this way, being authenthic is of the utmost importance. Authenticity really makes a difference in the quality of your life, and especially on your mental health. By the way, before continuing, authenticity doesn’t mean being a totally stupid, low-status human who listens to his desires endlessly without any discipline. Instead, being authentic is being powerful. We’ll speak more about this later.

So, not only is authenticity bettering you, it is also affecting your relationships in a good way (in the vast majority of cases and with the right people), it enables you to produce work you enjoy and that has the true potential to make a ton of money and/or to contribute to people’s lives and the world, and, it boosts almost any single aspect of your life.

Being authentic can also help you connect more with your soul and be closer to god, if you’re religious. When you’re not lying to yourself you suddenly feel a burden off of your shoulders. You feel so strong, powerful, authentic, loving. Suddenly, you stop having a fake mirage of identity and you start living your truth.

Inauthenthicity, the contrary of authenticity, breeds many dangers. Being inauthentic leads maybe to you being more accepted to society by displaying a fake image, but it also leads to loss of identity, never feeling good enough, never feeling connected, feeling empty, having fake, mirage-like social relationships and therefore not being fulfilled in this area of your life, self-questioning, and you are deceiving people with a fake identity.

Let’s say for example you act like a red-pill influencer, you try to be the new “Andrew Tate”. You get the watch, the car, you make money off disgusting industries and then act like if you’re god-chosen, you are arrogant, you act like you have a giant ego, etc.

Acting like this might help you attract many women (even tho a lot of them are low-quality) and it might help you attract attention, fame, social prestige, social status, maybe even more money, but are you deeply fulfilled? Because when you come back home and you take off the mask, do you really feel like the compliments we made to you touched you deep in your heart?

It’s normal if the compliments didn’t make a difference in your proudness or happiness: you’re only playing a role. You’re FAKE. And living under your mirage identity, acting differently than you do in public from daily life, you start losing your identity.

You might have money, but you’re empty. You might have women, but you’re unfulfilled. You might have social prestige, but you feel like you’re not making a contribution to the world.

These are the dangers of inauthenthicity. And, even on a smaller, local scale, who wants to live a life of being inauthetnhic? Why hiding your true self in fear, why hiding your deepest gifts in the midst of fear, worsening your mental health and acting fake, whilst you could actually BE COOL?

Why acting cool when you can breathe coolitude? Why forcing it and having identity crises when you can just be cool and always be proud of yourself and love your life like never before. Why not actually pursuing the things that you find truly passionating, not founded in instant gratification or some bullshit, but things such as deep work, reading, writing, athleticism? Why not living true to your nature instead of lying to yourself for fame, women, and respect from nobodies? Who care!

Alex Hormozi (entrepreneur, philanthropist, influencer) once said ““Authenticity” is just a fancy word for the alignment of three things:

1. What you really TRULY (and even controversially) believe

2. What you say

3. What you do And most of us don’t do it because we’re afraid of what people will think of us if they knew what we really believe. Myself included.”

Meditate on that for a moment. Authenticity is living from your soul, it’s aligning what you truly believe in, what you’re saying and showing to the world, and what you’re doing in and out of social interactions. If you’re acting like a fighter in public but you’re scared of fighting in private, then you’re inauthentic. It’s lying.

Living from your soul

For religious or spiritual people out there like me, living from our soul can seem difficult at first. And, I don’t even know if at the moment of this writing I’m living from my soul, authenthically. After-all, what is the metric, what is the feeling we can feel to know that we are living from our soul?

To me, it seems that when we live more from our soul, we tend to be more proficient at everything we do, and we tend to get better results, and be happier in the process too. When we live authentically and stop pretending and just work hard on meaningful projects and make relationships and work on our spiritual journeys, we seem to grow in happiness, depth of wisdom and power.

Maybe what I’m saying makes no sense, but that’s my take on it. Maybe the 56 eggs I consumed in the week got to my head. I don’t know.

Here is a small, rapid exercise from David Deida in his book The Way Of The Superior Man, in order to live more from your soul, or at least recognize or feel your soul. At least, this is what I understood.

Try to feel your attention. Where is your attention right now? Is it spread in thoughts, or is your attention focused on the text you’re reading right now? Can you feel that which makes attention conscious? Can you feel the life in your body outside of your biological functions, maybe something more spiritual?

Can you feel where attention comes from? Can you simply, effortlessly, let attention subside into it’s source? This might only be mental, but I feel like it can make a difference. This exercise can help you “mentally” or “spiritually” locate your soul or at least feel it in any shape or form, or get closer to it.

David Deida says to live from this source and make money off of this source and do everything in our lives out of this source. So, here is an actionable step for you.

ACTIONABLE STEP: Repeat this “soul searching” exercise a few times throughout the day. Try to repeat it a ton of time throughout the day.

Disciplined Authenticity

You should really mark the difference between your authentic self, and your lizard brain. Being more authentic, as I’ve said before, doesn’t mean falling into all of your desires. It doesn’t mean “I want chocolate so I eat chocolate”. It doesn’t mean “I want to watch TV instead of working so I watch TV instead of working”.

Being more authentic means giving your true gifts, living from your soul, being fully present and loving, it means being great, being real. It doesn’t mean falling into stupid, low-quality activities that derives you from being authentic and present in the moment.

When you’re absorbed in instant gratification, you easily lose yourself and fall back into conditioning and inauthenthicity. The goal here is to avoid instant gratification and to train your disciplinary skills.

To train our disciplinary skills, we simply need to do the hard work even when we don’t feel like it. Discipline isn’t about going to the gym when you feel all happy and motivated, it’s going to the gym when you feel tired and unmotivated. This is where you’re truly challenged outside of your comfort zone, and this is where you can check if you’re truly disciplined or not.

So, remember that there is a MAJOR difference between true authenticity and your lizard brain. Mark this difference, avoid your lizard brain, and listen to your authenthic, true self.

Being authentically masculine

Before ending this article, I wanted to speak about masculinity and authenticity. In our modern space of male influencers, we often end up being inauthentic in our lives. Take a look at Andrew Tate for example, who was deeply inauthentic, and who is still very materialistic, superficial, and ego-driven. He is still inauthentic. He is not living from his truth, he is putting on a fake image of himself on social media to be liked or to be accepted as a “high value man”, even tho he isn’t.

Being authentic means living from your truth. You can clearly see with Tate, either by conditioning or by trying to “act cool”, that he carries himself (in his way of walking, speaking, or holding his hands together) that he is inauthentic.

Let’s take Hamza Ahmed. This guy helped me change my life, but I need to outline his inauthenthicity! Only recently has he been more authenthic, since the podcast he had with Chris Williamson. Basically, when he became more and more successful, he gained a ton of arrogance and ego. And, after his podcast and discussion with Chris Williamson, he began being more authentic.

This is due because, during the podcast, Chris told him about the fact that he was inauthenthic and that he should be more authenthic, not in a controversial, confrontational manner, but in a friendly, brother-like manner.

And so, if these two influencers and thousands of others were flooding the masculinity space with “quick fixes” and “red pill techniques” and fake ways to act to look cool and be cool, and with their conditioning of materialism, money, or being a degenerate, what do you think the result was? More inauthenticity and confusion with what masculinity truly is about.

Masculinity ISN’T about having the watch. It ISN’T about having the muscle-mass. It ISN’T about having money. Now sure, having a lot of money, women, and muscle-mass can be an indicator of your masculinity, showing the skills of hard work, discipline, consistency, etc, which are truly important for masculine people.

But, masculniity is more spiritual than this. It’s about PRESENCE. It’s being like a tree: fully present in the moment, and unmovable. It’s being a strong pillar, and being truly loving. It’s giving love all the time to your woman and to the world, be it in the forms of mental or physical love to your woman as well-as working hard on meaningful projects which will benefit and better the world and people.

It’s about being fully present and loving, being deeply authentic, and living at your edge whilst giving your truest, and fullest gifts. If you want to know more about true masculinity, read The Way Of The Superior Man by David Deida. This book is the best guide you can find on masculinity as far as I know and am concerned.

Conclusion

Being authentic is truly important. And, inauthenticity is a modern problem which we should overcome. Being more authentic will make true difference for you and for the world around you. Not only will it help you in every area of your life, but it will also help others.

Authenthicity is a major key in living a great life. It’s one of the best values you can have.

As always, thank you for reading, and I’ll see you next time. Bye.