Contemplate The Nature Of Life

Introduction

You wake up at 06:00 AM. You get to the shower, barely awake, brush your teeth, get into the shower, dress-up, do your haircut, put some perfume, put your rings and your watch, the sunglasses on, and you quit for your job at 07:00 AM.

At 07:45, you’re at your work. You salute your co-workers, go on with your day, and work hard on your job. At lunch, you eat healthy and go to the gym to hit a small workout. You’re productive, and you optimize your time at a maximum. A true employee, who works hard, and who have great values.

You come back home at 18:00, you make food for yourself or the kids or your partner, you eat, you go and meditate, read, and work on your business project, you take a shower, get in bed, kiss your partner, and go to sleep… and, the next morning, everything starts again, over and over and over.

You make tremendous progress in life, yet with all this self-improvement stuff and with the pressure of your job, you feel like your life is simply a repetition, like if everyday you were doing the same thing. You never break your routine, and then, vacations happens. A lot of people doesn’t like to let go on self-improvement, and this is one of the many mistakes I did.

I had refused a trip to Italy because of… the gym. And my diet. And my self-improvement journey. What happened? I became even worse than if I went to Italy, despite the fact that in Italy I might have eaten chocolate and ice creams and junk food and I might have slept late and not went to the gym. Why did I worsen? Because I didn’t get out of my comfort zone and I refused to simply live life as it is, accepting the fact that life isn’t all about meditation and self-improvement habits and watching Hamza. I refused to accept that self-improvement was making meaningful experiences, and having a story to tell your children apart from "I meditated".

It’s easy to get stuck in a self-improvement bubble, a lot of us had this happen to us. We got ourselves linked to self-improvement as our identity, and instead of viewing self-improvement as a mirage, with « real life » being the reality and real life experiences being interesting despite sacrificing some self-improvement habits, we continued to « grind » by maximizing good habits, leading to us becoming even worse than if we had let go in the first place.

Let me tell you, self-improvement habits are incredible, and you should absolutely do them. Even during vacations, it’s still super useful and great to meditate, and I recommend still keeping some form of self-improvement habits during your vacations. However, remember that the goal of self-improvement is to become a better human being and to lead a great life and to be a great man or woman of character. If it takes you away from these objectives, even if it’s so-called « self improvement habits », then it’s not self-improvement anymore.

I might have gained more minutes of meditations or more gym sessions in the month, but I missed the incredible opportunity to make infinite memories in Italy, that I would never have forgotten. Yet, this fake « self-improvement » bubble got the best of me, and me, thinking that I was disciplined for going to the gym, was actually undisciplined for not pushing myself past my comfort zone of my comfortable routine of self-improvement.

It’s great to lock yourself for a moment and work on your projects and stop bullshitting yourself and blah and blah, but if it becomes permanent, it’s called isolation. It’s great to work hard on your diet and physical and mental health and your sleep schedule and your business, but if you’re not present, not loving, not living in the moment and being truly connected to who you are, then is it worth it? I think not.

Self-development is incredible, but real-life experiences are better than what Dale Carnegie says in his book, right? So, contemplate the nature of life. See the bigger picture. Don’t live in a rut, in a bubble, even if it’s a self-improvement one. Learn constantly new things. Contemplate the nature of life and be a man or woman of character in the world.

Look at the person I described in the introduction of this article. It might be you, you might recognize yourself in this person. This person might be admirable for the work he or she puts in into his or her work and life, however, if he or she never contemplates the nature of life, is he or she going to be happy? Listen up, self-development is great, but also take time to admire reality and the things around you. Take time to be present. Living in this « self-improvement mindset » is great, but also learn to let go and be happy in the moment.

Be authentic. Live from your soul. When you’re on a vacation and it breaks your routine, enjoy this vacation. If you worked on yourself and your character enough before quitting, you’ll still be this high-value chad. All progress is not lost. Enjoy yourself, eat ice-cream, go and destroy your sleep-schedule, wake up at 10 AM, who cares. Have fun, these vacations are unique, and it’s not because you’re not letting go that you’re « strong ». Let go. Learn to simply relax.

Now your average Hamza Ahmed fanboy might start screaming at me and saying I’m a low-testosterone loser for enjoying my vacations but… if you always live with this self-improvement mindset of grinding and grinding and grinding, like David Goggins, what are you gaining from going on vacations? What are you gaining from live anyway? If your life is trying to look like the cool lone wolf who runs in the street in the dark at 4AM whilst listening to cringe TikTok David Goggins music edit or whatever... you're just a kid who's not disciplined enough to let go of his ego and simply relax.

When improving yourself and questioning yourself becomes a second nature, you don’t need to worry anymore about not being on self-improvement, since you’re becoming better at all times. A self-development guru might say I worsened myself whilst going on vacations... I think not. I think it’s just an experience of life. We’re here to explore and experience after all. This doesn’t mean to go and be a degenerate and fuck around, but just to say, it’s not because you eat an ice cream one day with your girlfriend or friends that you’re a total bitch. It’s just the natural rhythm of life.

If you look at every authentically masculine man, they don’t feel bad or feminine for eating ice-cream from time to time. This shows that authentic, masculine people doesn’t care about cutting their « dieting streaks ». They live off of self-improvement most times, and so when they derive from it for whatever reason, they just call it experience, at least that’s my perception on the situation. Do you think Sylvester Stallone feels guilty about eating an ice cream? Maybe, but I think not.

Enjoy life. Contemplate the fact that you’re a soul in the universe, and the whole universe around you is composed of thousands of millions of souls. You’re only one small drop in the infinite ocean of things, you’re nothing and you’re dust and you’ll disappear. So, make meaningful connections. It might be « bad » in the self-improvement space to eat an ice cream with your girlfriend on a day to the beach for example, because she might think you’re a "low-status loser", but in reality it simply doesn’t work like this. In reality, if you’re with the right person, one day of junk food eating won’t make her unattracted. If you stay strong in your truth and mental power, it’s not sugar that will make you emasculated.

For example, I went to Spain and I ate processed foods everyday, including sugar. Do I feel bad for it? No. Has my girlfriend self esteem for me crashed? No, it became even better. I maintained my masculine essence. No stress.

So, de-stress about self-improvement and learn to simply contemplate life and enjoy life. Enjoy a good day at the beach, eat some ice cream this summer, and realize that the goal of self-improvement is to make you a better and a more functional human being, and that, if it takes you away from unforgettable experiences, then it’s probably not good for you anyway.

Grind, but relax. Have periods of extreme work, and extreme relaxation. Focus on business, and then have some fun with your girlfriend and friends. This is the reality of life. Self-improvement doesn’t matter. BECOMING BETTER matters. So focus on what makes you better as a human, realize and contemplate life and the bigger things and questions in life, realize that you’re nothing, give your gifts fully, be it in your relationship, at work, or at the gym, and stop thinking that listening to Hamza Ahmed is the only way. The true way is to live your life authentically from your core, to be nice to others, to be just, to lead a great life full of unforgettable experiences and full of hard work and discipline, and with all of this mixed, you’ll live a good life, trust me.

A spartan wouldn’t give a fuck if he broke his warrior diet to eat some modern processed food. It’s just an exception and an experience. As long as you get back on track and don’t become a total loser, stop worrying, and live your life fully.

Conclusion

I hope this article was of help to you. Remember to look at the bigger picture and make yourself remember what truly matters in the world.

As always, thank you for reading, and I’ll see you next time.

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