How To Have A Polarized Relationship

What is polarization?

Polarization is the existence of two different poles that attract or repel each other. For example, let's look at the concept of polarization on planet earth. First off, on the geographic scale, there is a clear phenomena of polarization: there is the north, and the south. Both attract each other.

Now let's look at two magnets, each magnet has a north and a South Pole. If you put the North Pole of one magnet near the South Pole of the other one, both of the magnets are going to clip together.

If, however, you put the North Pole of one magnet and the North Pole of the other magnet together, both are going to simply repel each other, because they don't clip, because they're the same.

In other words, attraction, be it in a relationship or between two magnet, is founded on polarization, which means having two poles. This is what nature tells us very clearly, we need two different type of poles and people in order to build attraction.

So think about it, which difference builds a state of polarization between two people in a relationship? Is it the different hairstyles? Or the clothes? What truly builds attraction and therefore a state of polarization between two people, are the sort of "internal state" of each person, wether a person has a more masculine essence which represents masculine values (discipline, competitivity, responsibility, purpose) or wether a person has a more feminine essence that represents feminine values (love, taking care of others, being a good person and being romantic, etc).

So, if you want your relationship to be very polarized, meaning you want to have a clear masculine pole and a clear feminine pole, you need to choose the pole you want to go toward. 90% of man would rather be in a relationship where they occupy the masculine pole. 90% of woman would rather be in a relationship where they occupy the feminine pole. 10% of man would rather be in a relationship where they occupy the feminine pole. 10% of woman would rather be in a relationship where they occupy the masculine pole.

As you can see, each different poles (the feminine pole and the masculine pole) attract each other, like magnets. We're talking about this polarization continuum because it's important for you to realize that you need to be authentic to your true core if you want to attract your other self. You need to be playing the masculine role whilst being authentic in it, to attract your feminine partner. And, you need to keep this polarization continuum in your mind at all times, and use it as a very important tool when your relationship starts to go wrong, in order to see what you're doing differently now that you weren't doing before that hurts the relationship.

But concretely, how can you have a polarized relationship? Do you only need to be masculine or feminine? No, of course not, there's more than that.

You need to always have attentions for each other. Kisses, messages, calls, gifts, smiles, loving words, you need to love each other. You're in a fucking couple, of course you need to love each other!

You also need to always take care of each other, and always do the maximum you can to make the other person happy. Cooking good meals for each other, taking care of each other, even making love to each other, all of these activities is what gives you a polarized relationship.

To get a polarized relationship, both of you need to be authentic, both of you need to have good self-esteem, both of you need to play your masculine and feminine roles, and both of you need to give love to each other in the deepest ways.

Also, there's no need to spend days and days together. That is a common mistake in relationships, the man and the woman will often become very attached to the point they spend their days together, and this is when they start to fight and resentment builds and they get unattached. If a man and a woman doesn't have their own time for themselves, and if they spend too much unnecessary time together, they will start being depolarized.

If you spend too much time that is unproductive with someone (4 hours of staying together where you're not present and loving at your maximum), you might start having more and more frequent fights and problems.

This is why, to stay in a polarized relationship, spend quality time together, and if the quality start becoming worse, you can reduce the time spent together as to reinvest it in other areas of your life. So the time you'll spend with your partner will be time you really want to see your partner and where you'll be fully present and loving, which will undeniably better the relationship.

Also, work on yourself a lot. If you don't work on yourself, there is a chance your partner is going to lose attraction to you, and as much as he or she loves you, the "unsatisfaction" can just numb a little bit the love he or she feels for you, and this ultimately ends in both partners being unhappy despite loving each other, which can cause break ups and heartbreaks.

Conclusion

To conclude, to keep a good relationship that is polarized, you need to play your masculine or feminine role. You need to work on yourself in order to become strong and authentic and wise, whilst still loving your partner at the deepest levels of your soul.

You need to keep working on your projects and you shouldn't prioritize the relationship above everything else, or else you'll become dependent on your partner for happiness, and this can cause many troubles. Now, people with a feminine essence can and should logically prioritize love in relationships, which means they should love always thinking about the relationship. But, if you're a masculine man for example, this isn't for you.

If you want more relationship advice I would like to refer you to many other articles I've written in the past about relationships and I think you could also go and search online on the subject because there's a ton of very interesting authors such as David Deida which offers incredible perspective on the subject.

As always, thank you for reading, and I'll see you next time. Bye.

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