If Your Life Feels Dull...

The moment is dull, the future is bright.

So, your life is dull. You feel bored, out of your mind, like if your life lost meaning. Like if your life lost a purpose, a sense of direction. Maybe it lost relationships. Anyway, in this article, we will dive into how to deal with your life feeling dull. Should you change everything in your life? Should you explore new things?

Before moving on, for the sake of this article, we will assume that you are either a masculine man or a feminine woman. We will see, how according to the different energies of each people, we can find meaning in our lives. And this meaning, is seldom found in instant gratification. It is rooted in self-improvement.

If you're a masculine man...

According to spiritual teacher David Deida, in his illuminating book on masculine wisdom entitled The Way Of The Superior Man, the masculine is happy with his life when he is aligned with his purpose, when he has a sense of direction in his life.

Naturally, masculine energy represents direction. It is decision, direction, purpose and accomplishment. It is when you know where you're going, and when you're going to go there. It's like deciding a trip, you decide the destination. If you do so, your trip will feel way better than if you just said "let's follow the road".

Same goes for the masculine or masculine energy. When you just decide to live life, complacent, not having any kind of direction, like floating in the void, it bespeaks an important truth: you are disconnected from your masculine core. You are not living authentically to your masculine side, the one screaming at you to change your life and to find meaning and purpose and direction.

And purpose is an abstract concept. I mean what could be your ultimate purpose? Having children? Having a good marriage? Having a great career, a great life? Gaining lots of money? Well it depends, but generally your purpose is the activity, the thing that makes your core fulfilled.

For example, if you love teaching people about self-improvement, your purpose might be to be a self-improvement teacher. But be careful, this might also reveal itself to be a sub-purpose. Once more, according to David Deida, your major life purpose, the one that will and should guide your life above all, and which will lead to you sharing love in the world, is seldom uncovered easily.

It requires of you, at first, to explore and to break through the sub-purposes of your life, be them lasting 6 months to 6 years. For example, your life purpose might be to build a family. At first, you might have the sub-purpose of becoming a police-man. It might last 6 years. Then, it might be becoming deeply religious or building a thriving business. It might last 6 months to 10 years. And so on and so forth until you break through, or peel through, your ultimate purpose, like you would peel through the layers of an onion to get to it's core.

Therefore, if your life feels dull as a man, find meaning and direction in life. It's complicated. It might take you months or years to find this "purpose" you're looking for. But just find something that will better the world and your life simultanously and work on it. If you want to help the homeless, do so! Build a business to make multiple homeless shelters around the world.

This way, uncovering your true purpose and accomplishing meaningful work, you will feel complete. The "Superior Man" is complete unto himself at every moment, he is fully aware, present, and stoic, however, if he lapses in fullness because he isn't completing meaningful work to him, he is going to be a worse partner, a worse husband, a worse friend. He is going to be disconnected from his core, lost, drifting, distracted. And this results in your life feeling dull.

I myself feel this. As I write this, whenever I don't complete meaningful work, procrastinate and lapse in fullness, I feel incomplete, I feel frustrated, emotional, which is the contrary of who I want to become. However, when I work on meaningful work, I feel good. I feel unstoppable. I feel strong. This, to me, is the proof that masculine energy needs direction in life. It needs something to go after that is meaningful, that jibes with your core.

If you're a feminine woman

Once more, according to David Deida, the feminine finds fulfillment in life through the flow of love in her life. For example, she can be having problems at work and family problems, but if her relationship to you or to god is complete, if it doesn't lack in love, if it is abundant in love and if she can surrender into the love that you offer or that god offer's without any restriction, flowing perfectly in her feminine state, she will be happy.

This is why, if you're a man, your woman will always test your capacity to love her. Sometimes she will be emotionally "grey", like a storm passing by. It might seem scary to you, or just repulsive, but it's in those moments you need to hold her and look deeply into her eyes and kiss her passionately. It's in those moment the feminine needs support in intimacy. It's now that it needs love. Not after.

Your woman will constantly test you. Just like the entire world will test you, always. She will test your capacity to stay strong and committed in your own truth and purpose and direction without lapsing in fullness, whilst loving her completely. THIS is the challenge of the masculine. And the feminine love this abundance of love, whilst a man enjoys it, but is more fulfilled by purpose and direction.

So, if your life feels dull as a feminine woman, consider your relationship with your man, with god or with your children. Are you really in a great relationship? Should you speak with your partner about it? Are you feeling love flowing deeply in your life? If not, you might have found the source of the problem.

However, do not negate your feminine energy for masculine priorities. Living in a masculine world (who's slowly shifting to a feminine world), we are constantly asked to produce high quality work, to be disciplined, to have direction and purpose, in other words, both men and women, despite of their sexual essences and energies, are asked to work and to be social in a masculine style, in a masculine manner. At least this is how it works in western countries.

But as man and woman of character on self-improvement, we need to understand that if we align our life to our primary sexual essence, life will just feel better. And so if your life feels dull, being a man or a woman, but in this case a feminine woman, you might be negating your feminine energy in the sake of masculine goals.

You might be one of those "hyper focused on career" women who skips any chance of relationship and love in their life, originally feminine woman who never learnt to surrender into love, feeling disconnected from their core, having become 30 years down the line masculine women who now feels a lack in their lives.

DO NOT DISCONNECT YOURSELF FROM YOUR CORE. Be you a man or a woman, be careful about this. Do not let your core be disturbed because of society's demands. You can exert masculine or feminine energy as you wish, but your primary driver should be guiding 80% or more of your day.

CONCLUSION

In summary, life may feel dull for you because of one simple reason: you are disconnected from your core. In other words, if you're a masculine man, you need to put as your priority your purpose, your mission and meaningful work, whilst if you're a woman, you need to put as your priority the flow of love in your life.

This way, you can reconnect yourself to your sexual essence and therefore, you can align yourself with the truth of your being and be truly authentic and loving, as a man and as a woman. If you do so, your life will feel less dull, and more complete, and you will feel truly happy and fulfilled.

Thank you for reading this article. If you're interested in self-help or generally in spirituality I recommend checking the other articles that are coming out soon. As always, keep improving. Remember that even out of this idea of masculine and feminine energies, self-improvement is the fundamental factor which will help you be truly fulfilled and happy. And if you pair self-improvement with your primary sexual-essence and the priorities it carries, I think you can go very far in life.

See you next time.