Should You Become Complacent In Your Relationship?

INTRODUCTION

A lot of people, when they get into a relationship, start declining. Their discipline, consistency, will-power, maybe even self-improvement journey, starts declining. More often than not, in MOST peoples lives, what started inclining when they got into a relationship is their weight and their health problems.

In other words, people often let go from improving themselves when they get into a relationship. This is why you see a ton of divorce and problems in the relationships from couples that were once happy with each other. Familiarization breeds depolarization, and this ends up worsening both of the partners.

This is the basic pattern of some people’s relationships. Now sure, it’s not always the case for EVERYONE, but it’s true that depolarization often happens when one or both of the partner gets complacent.

But, what is depolariaztion?

DEPOLARIZATION

Before defining depolarization, we need to define polarization. Polarization is when there are two opposites: the south and north poles, the positive and negative sides of a battery, the masculine and feminine poles of any polarized relationship, the dark and the light, the yin and the yang, etc. These poles attract each other, they are polarized.

Depolarization is the contrary of polarization. Depolarization happens when two energies repel each other. For example, if you rub two magnets together for a long enough time, they will not be attracted to each other. In other terms, depolarization in this context means when two partners are not energetically or sexually interested in each other anymore.

In the same way, when feminine energy and masculine energy rubs off on each other too much, and each partner begins to adopt the energy of the other person consciously or unconsciously, the poles become either reversed or equal.

Maybe the man will become more feminine and the woman more masculine (a huge societal change that we can observe in real life, as men are becoming more feminine and women more masculine).

Or, the woman will become as masculine as her man unconsciously or consciously, maybe because of her life demands or simply her man’s irresponsibility (her man becoming more feminine). The man, who has naturally a masculine sexual essence, will occupy either the masculine or neutral poles in the relationship, the woman will occupy the masculine pole, and there will be no feminine: the thing that attracted the man with a masculine sexual essence in the first place!

A lot of divorce happens because of this. Both partners may love each other, but they are not attracted anymore. Either they divorce because their couple and intimacy have become grey and ugly, or they barely support each other, sharing some quick sex here and there and having barely enough courage to say “I love you”.

For the relationship to be fresh and all loving, both partners need to stay within their authentic sexual essence, so they can be attracted to the energy their partner displayed in the first place, and the relationship is suddenly juicy and full of life.

The dangers of depolarization of course is becoming inauthentic to your true core, causing a lot of mental health issues and even physical issues (a masculine man who became more feminine might try to feel more masculine by watching a ton of action movies or drinking beer instead of actually being authentically masculine, etc).

Eventually, this depolarization can cause divorce, depression, lack of purpose, and more. It can even cause physical stress which can lead to health conditions and generally, it can cause tension in the couple and therefore hurt both partners. Not only this, it can also lead to infidelity and lack of happiness in intimacy.

If a man is not giving enough love to his woman for example, if he is watching TV too much and if he is not masculine enough, this man wife might start indulging more and more in junk food and nights out with friends to feel filled with love and excitement. This might even lead to infidelity.

This man’s wife might also start becoming more masculine because her man is lacking in masculine energy, so she has to take the balls herself, which ends up causing her to stress too much, maybe even causing physical and mental health problems. Both partners become depolarized.

What does this has to do with complacency?

Getting complacent will undeniably affect the quality of your relationship with your partner. Getting comfortable will push you to become less attractive, less “polarizable”, which will, in term, affect your relationship.

Let’s say you’re a man. Your woman was attracted to you because you were strong, taking risks, launching businesses, living the life, and being a warrior. And, as you grow older, you become less and less focused on your purpose and you start spending less time with your children and wife, you spend more time on TV than you do with her.

As this happens, she starts becoming more and more masculine and depolarized. Love still remains, but the excitement is gone until she feels that you came back into your masculine pole. This depolarization might push the couple to have sexual problems, frequent fights and even divorce or they might as well experience a break up.

Your partner, if he or she is good partner, wants you at your best. This is undeniable. Your partner doesn’t want you to bullshit yourself, if your partner is a high-quality partner, he or she wants you to be at your best. If you were at your best before meeting your partner and you became complacent, he or she will feel it and he or she will feel depolarized.

You have to maintain a sort of standard. Remember, if you don’t, love might still remain, but if the limits are crossed, not only can love disappear, but if it doesn’t, polarization is out of the window and your relationship sucks.

Do you want this? I think not.

Now, it’s not because you had a cheat meal or because you let go a little bit of your discipline for the vacations that your partner will feel depolarized, logic plays a role too and love also plays a role. But instinct prevails, especially if this depolarization is constant. If it becomes constant in the relationship, then the relationship will become dull.

Do it for yourself too

Complacency hurts others around you, as well as the world, but it also hurts you. When you get complacent, you ultimately regret not being at your fullest. You have an unconscious voice telling you to be better, at least for most people.

If you get complacent, you’ll ultimately be less confident, happy and powerful in the world. If you get lazy, your mental health will worsen, as well as your physical health.

You need to do it for yourself too, because being a loser isn’t fun at all. When you achieved big things in life and you feel proud and motivated and happy like never before, and then you get complacent, you regret the time you felt at an all time high.

You feel like you worsened, like you downgraded, you feel less good about yourself, unhappy, maybe even holding resentment against yourself. Instead of reaching this point, start by being not complacent in the first place.

This means finding a sustainable self-growth routine so you can grow into a better person. Working hard, but relaxing too, eating clean and being super disciplined, but having great social relationships and letting go off the pedal when needed (at special events, etc).

It’s just a question of balance. If you have a sustainable routine in life that helps you grow as a person much faster than the “average person’s rate of growth”, then you will undoubtedly reach heights than you never thought you were able to reach before.

Conclusion

In conclusion, you need not to get complacent in your relationship, for your partner, the world, and yourself. Not only will you become less fulfilled, but you will also depolarize yourself with your partner after some time.

I hope this article was of help to you. As always, thank you for reading, and I’ll see you next time. Bye.

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