What Masculinity Truly Is

You've been fed a lie.

You've been fed an immense lie. Social media, the television, and the movies once more lied to you. Masculinity isn't about facial hair, big muscles, or deep voice. It isn't about having money, the latest watch, or the latest car. It is not the jock in the movies or the boxer on the screen.

Masculinity is way more spiritual than this. It's founded on the basis of spirituality: energies. Masculine energy, to be more precise. Masculinity consists, according to David Deida, of getting close to Shiva. Shiva, in the Hinduist religion and mythology, is a spiritual being that possesses all knowledge. He has ultimate wisdom, he is fully present and unperturbable. He knows what to do and when to do it. It's the definition of masculinity.

Another example of masculine spirits could be Marcus Aurelius. A wise man fighting for justice in a never-ending inegalitarian world, a wise man who knew how to lead his Empire and his people whilst staying humble.

But Marcus Aurelius, Shiva, and Mohammed Ali for example are only examples of the representations of masculinity. However, masculinity is more of an idea than a character or a person or a spiritual being. This is why masculinity cannot be bought. It cannot be achieved by having the latest Audemars Piguet or the latest Rolex. It is achieved in the mind, in the actions, in the beliefs.

As with everything worth achieving, it always starts in the mind. And so you've been fed a lie. You maybe thought that Andrew Tate for example was truly masculine because he looked cool and he had a watch and he was materialistic and he was rich and he had the latest yacht and car and the girls and all that bullshit you dreamed of having.

Only to realize, later, that this ideal of masculinity is an illusion. It is false. It is more feminine more than anything.

The real masculinity

From what I've understood (and this is not to say I'm right as it is a very complex and wide subject), masculinity is not about muscles or cars or watches. It's about internal beliefs and character traits. To be masculine is to respect the PPP rule. The PPP rule represents three big masculine characteristics/traits that you can adopt in your daily life to become more masculine.

Presence is the first trait. It consists of being present at the moment, fully present, imperturbable, like Shiva. Being present in the moment means having your mind stay in the present moment without wandering somewhere else or wondering about something else. It's being here, in the moment, unperturbed, fully present and loving. And this can be achieved through meditation. 10-20 minutes a day is enough. Start at 3 minutes.

Purpose is the second trait. It consists of being decisive in your life and having a meaningful purpose to pursue in your day-to-day life. You need to uncover each layer of sub-purposes before reaching your core purpose, the one that drives your life for real. This process is like peeling an onion, or "peeling life". It consists of simply peeling your purposes, and completing each one until the core purpose is found or fulfilled. For example, your core purpose might be to help people, and your first purpose might be to be a policeman. Then the second one was a firefighter. Then the third one may be to be a psychologist or to get fully into medicine. Then, after some time, you might build an enterprise to sell courses to help people with mental health problems. Then, years later, you may have organizations paying you to coach their teams. Finally, you are aligned to your true purpose: helping people. So, find your purpose through trials and errors, and make it your priority in life. By the way, be decisive. Take action, and make decisions whilst assuming fully the responsibilities for them.

Power is the third trait. It consists of the power you exert in your daily life. An example given by David Deida to explain this "power" is to "penetrate life". It's to enter life and be a full force of love, presence, power, depth, and wisdom. It's being everything and nothing. It's being dissolved in the love that you are. In other words, you need to follow your purpose, find it, and gain power through the meaningful tasks of your day. You need to be physically powerful, to be able to break someone, but to also be mentally powerful, to be wise and strong and decisive. Finally, you need to be spiritually powerful, giving all the love you have and understanding your true place in the world. This way, you're sure to be a powerful man, in mind, body, and spirit.

Presence, Purpose, and Power make the PPP masculine balance. You need to be a present man, a purposeful man, and a powerful man, to lead a masculine life. So the real masculinity is to be so. It's to be a free man, powerful in his purpose, in his truth, powerful physically, spiritually, and mentally, and rarely lapsing in presence. This is an ideal. We might not reach it, but we can get close to it. We will make errors along the way but this is the ultimate masculine challenge: giving everything you've got, dissolving into love, and as David Deida, author of The Way Of The Superior Man would say, "dying in the giving of your gifts".

Balance between money and power

Even tho you shouldn't rely on money to feel masculine, money still is deeply important, even for spiritual people. You see, we cannot negate the importance of money. Its value just is too important. If it wasn't, people wouldn't kill themselves over it for thousands of years. Money is so important that some people choose to corrupt their souls for it.

However, we, men and women of character, don't want to get stuck in the materialistic problem of always wanting more. We want to be bigger than that, wiser than that. And it's important to realize that indeed, materialism is an ugly trait and that it can affect your masculinity by making you deeply dependent on money, not following your true purpose but just producing more for the sake of materialism.

However, it's also important to have balance in life, and I think that balancing between having a cool watch and being a spiritually strong man is important. For example, having muscles might not be what makes you inherently masculine but if you have big muscles it helps with feeling masculine. The same goes for good-looking clothes and nice watches. It's not your motor, but it's a cool thing to add to the engine so it runs better. Also, since we're at it, having muscles probably makes you physically strong, and it teaches discipline which makes you mentally strong. After all, having muscles might help a lot in developing more masculinity.

You can use money to get the latest phone, watch, or car and this wouldn't make you emasculated. But abusing and being dependent on that, and especially on other people's thoughts about you, is what makes you truly emasculated. To be masculine is to be free, fully loving and present, undivided inside, purposeful, and decisive.

And so even tho the car or watch or the nice haircut can help, or even help a lot, if it's your main driver, it's not gonna run smoothly, to say the least. And if you're not a mediocre man, if you expect higher things of yourself, then you wouldn't go down that path.

Also, before concluding, I think that it's important to say that a superior man, a real man, a masculine man, is a man who benefits the world. Any man who is "masculine" and who doesn't benefit the world isn't "masculine". If you feel masculine but you made money out of disgusting industries such as the pornographic industry or the drug industry, then yes, you might have the car, watch, and all that bullshit but you're still an inherent piece of crap.

You're not masculine. You lost your balls. You're not wise, you're not fighting for justice, you're not strong, and you abuse other people to make a shit load of money only for more materialism that you don't need. It's not because it's your purpose, it's just for money! This is proof that money, materialism, and big muscles don't always rhyme with masculinity. You might be outwardly masculine: you have success, women, and muscles, but you're mentally and spiritually weak.

Conclusion

As always, take this article with a grain of salt. This is how I see masculinity and I think this is the true concept of masculinity, but my view can and will change and I might be wrong, so always consider forging your own opinions about it.

As always thank you for reading. You are the one who makes all of this possible, so thank you.

Remember that a masculine man is a man who is fully present, loving, undivided inside and decisive, as well as wise and powerful, and if you want to become this type of man, the way to go is to train yourself to be so through discipline, hard work, and consistency on your goals.

I recommend the book The Way Of The Superior Man by David Deida if you're interested in masculine spirituality. As always, I'll see you next time, cheers.